Amidu is a five year-old boy from Ghana. Anytime he wants something, he whines instead of asking politely. The parents are worried about this crying behavior. How can you use planned ignoring to stop this behavior?
1. Select a behavior to decrease: Asking something in whining tone repeatedly
2. Select ignoring you will use. You can practice what you will do with your partner or friend when the kid whines.
3. Ignore the behavior as often as consistently as you can. Anytime it happens ignore it. Try not to reprimand. You can simply walk away.
4. Praise and attend to your child when not whining or complaining. You can say, that is great, Amidu, you asked for a toy without whining.
NB: Do not ignore your child if there are safety concerns. Don’t use this if it can hurt the child. Always use Love in Child rearing.
Limits to planned ignoring
It has to be perfect for it to work. Anytime the behavior occurs it must be ignored. If there is little attention that behavior won’t go.
It can have odd effect in the beginning. The behavior may become worse for brief period. If your child has been having tantrums for a long period of time and you start ignoring intense will increase, a burst. With time it will work. So Keep ignoring.
Planned ignoring doesn’t develop a behavior, it must be worked with attending
Attendibg can be used by itself but planned ignoring rarely. The two must be combined to get the behavior you want.
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